How to be Happy

Not my photo.

Now I don't claim to have all the answers in the never-ending quest for happiness. But one thing I believe contributes greatly towards achieving that goal is having meaningful relationships with others. This could include good friends and/or family (parents, your partner, children, etc.) among others.

Let's face it... we all need times of solitude where we step back and recharge our batteries. But too much of it really sucks. And being surrounded by strangers in the hectic downtown core doesn't cut it. You can still be lonely in a large city if you haven't made any significant connections.

I know individuals who live in group homes. They're surrounded by people most of the day. But are they happy? Most of the time, no. Because these people are just that - people, not friends. So they're lonely, bored and unhappy.

If you're alone in a new city I'd suggest finding groups of like-minded individuals to hang out with. There are all manner of groups that do different activities (e.g. badminton, hiking, painting or even table games). Seek them out and become a member.

You can also do volunteer work. There is no end to the organizations that would appreciate whatever skills you can bring to the table. And, as a bonus, you'll get to meet new people.

If you're religious you can go to a church, mosque or synagogue to worship and fellowship with other believers. As well, according to some published data, regular church attendance can add years to your life. Another added benefit!

So, what are you waiting for? Get out there and be happy!

Maybe the French have something there...

I read this in last Saturday's Toronto Star: The French work less than Americans do, while sleeping more, taking more time over meals, and spending longer hours on leisure activities - and guess what? The French feel happier than Americans do. I think we can all learn a lesson from that.

It seems that certain cultures are quite driven to achieve more monetarily and career-wise. And it comes at the expense of relationships and even personal health. I'm sure the Americans aren't even the worst in that regard.

Sometimes it may be good to step back and take a look your own situation and realistically assess yourself. Now I'm not saying take a 1-1/2 year vacation like me. But, take time to smell the roses now and then, that's all. If you need to take a break from the hamster wheel of life, then so be it. The world won't come to an end if you're not there to greet it, bright eyed and bushy tailed, each and every morning.

My New Lens

Yay, I got a new lens. My cousin, Donna, bought a new lens for me. It's a 50 mm f/1.8 Canon lens. In the U.S. it was advertised for about $95. Up here in Canada it ranges from $130-$140. Though I did see it on sale at one store for $120 not too long ago. Anyway, I asked my cousin to buy it for me. After tax it ended up being $103 (U.S.). With our dollar being as strong as it is now, it was almost at par. My eldest cousin, Zena, brought the lens up this past week when she flew here to visit.

I had always wanted a fast prime lens to add to my collection. I only have two other lenses that I use. My 10-22 mm f/3.5-4.5 and 24-105mm IS f/4. This new lens should be good for portraits and other shots where I want a really shallow depth of field. Joy.